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Friday, July 2, 2010

Fast-Talking Friday

Hey guys! :)

How's everyone today? I'm just going to jump right in! Does anyone have any fund raising ideas?

I'm the president of the Honors Program at my college (I'm not officially in the office until fall) and it's pretty sad to see how much money we have in our funds for scholarships for those who are in our program (think somewhere in the $200 range) and I, along with two other students, are trying to fund raise over the summer to help jump start our bank account. It's difficult to turn things into a success when no one wants to pull the legwork and do it. So, it's just the three of us right now, dealing with cleaning out the office to use as a study center and trying to locate the Honors coordinator. In the program's defense, it had to be resurrected a year ago because the last coordinator retired or left the school, so it's a fairly unstable program as it is. We're barely staying afloat, so any ideas will be much appreciated!

It's actually really interesting to see what the majority of the readers like in the polls section. The most popular soft drink was Coca-Cola with Dr. Pepper close at second. Currently, Milk chocolate is dominating the chocolate poll. Is there a specific poll that you would like me to add?

Ok, let's move onto a more interesting topic: blogs!

I'm glad that Life with an Indian Twist is back. :) I can't wait to see what's going to happen next.

Ooo! Bedroom blog. I love where it's leading now. I'm kind of hoping that things are winding down with how things are going between Ben and K. are going. :)

Diary of J- I'm kind of getting restless to see what's going to happen between J. and Alejandro. It's interesting to see why and what she's doing. I don't know. It's so interesting at a psychological standpoint of why she's doing what she's doing.. and why Brandon is doing what he's doing. Why is he letting this happen? So many theories! :)

Modern Day Faith- I really hope that Faith can let Sean in. I really like him and I think that he'll be good for her. Super excited to see what's going to happen. :D

That's all I can recall from the top of my head for now.

Happy Friday, guys! :)

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND! :)

32 comments:

mum said...

Hey, girl. I don't know where you live, but in my area (central PA) a lot of organizations do fundraisers at local restaurants. Typically they'll do 10% of all food sales on a certain day between certain hours. They ask that you do as much as you can to promote it so they get the business and you get a nice cut. We have restaurants like Chili's, Friendly's, Hoss's, and Moe's that do that. Also, we do sub/sandwich sales, all you have to do is take orders, collect the money, and deliver them.

Regarding the blogs, missing Leigh/Alicia, but get that she needs a break. Like where BB is going. Regarding J, she says her job is overwhelming, but I think what she's posting about is overwhelming too, kind of reliving it. There's no way it's gonna end nicely, assuming it's over now (I think it is), so that may play into the sporadic posting.

Think that's it. Oh, Chapters & Karen, she's down to like once a week, and while the posts are good, I'm left wanting a lot more, not like cliffhanger, just like I'm not getting my fix, you know?

Have a good weekend! mum

Jayjay0jt said...

Hey, mum! I'm not sure that they do that in California, but I think I remember some club/organization doing that at a Barnes and Nobles. I don't think we have a Friendly's, I saw one in CT, but that doesn't help very much. :) But, we do have a Chili's a couple of minutes away from our campus. So, I'll definitely check that out.

With the sub/sandwich sales, are they pre-made by a sandwich shop or are they homemade? There might be some problems if they're homemade.

I know what you mean about Alicia's blog. It's like.. I want you to have this break to regenerate, but I want another post! I think I'm just being selfish. :P

With J's blog, I'm just kind of like.. interesting. I'm still iffy with the fact that she did it even though she was against it in the first place and Brandon would even suggest a thing and then later get somewhat jealous about the situation. It's just interesting, for a lack of a better word.

I completely understand about Chapters and Karen. They're both really good blogs and I'm just itching to see another post. I love the tie-ins that she does between C and K. It's pretty cool. I'm hoping for a run in with Karen. :)

There's a shortage of blogs right now, and most of the ones that I read post once a week now. I'm kind of like.. NEED BLOGS. NEED BLOGS. You know? lol.

Have an extremely terrific weekend, Mum! :)

Jayjay0jt said...

Thanks for the awesome fundraising ideas! I'm definitely going to talk with the other members about trying to see if Chili's would do something like that. :D

mum said...

Regarding the sub/sandwich sale - Pretzel sandwiches are huge out here. We always have a lot of success doing that. Check out a local sub shop and see if they do fundraisers. Definitely don't want to make them yourselves. When we do it, the subs come wrapped with lettuce, tomato, onion included. Very easy.

Maybe do a search on "restaurant fundraisers" and see what you come up with. Everyone likes to go out and eat! Typically food-related fundraisers are successful, at least in my experience. Good Luck!

mum

Anonymous said...

have you considered getting donations from some of the corporate business that would possibly hire the honor students?

As far as J's blog, having been in a similar situation, sometimes guys asks things without thinking of the consequences. And we (women) tend to want to please them no matter what. Its a fine line to walk. And with as much emotional drama as she's had in the past, for her its going to be very difficult.

Stephanie said...

Well I don't really have any experience with fundraising but my gradeschool ued to do pretzel sales and it usually worked pretty well.

And well I think I read J's blog simply because I read for the psychological angle. She's young, wanted to fulfill Brandon's fantasy, I get that. But the thing with fantasies is that they rarely live up to reality. Just like J thought she would be able to keep sex and love separate, obviously if she already had a bit of a crush going it the situation was bound to get out of control.

I miss Karen and Chapters. The posts are great but waiting for posts is a killer because I want to know what happens!! But I understand that she's been busy.

And I am going to miss Alicia's blog while she's on her break. But I understand the need for a vacation and I am sure the blog will come back better than ever.

Anonymous said...

While I enjoy reading J's blog.. I am tired of her excuses of why she can't post. She seems to have more excuses than posts. It's like look, if your life is THAT hectic.. stop promising us posts and just take a break. Either you're in, or your out.

Other than the total lack of a posting schedule that irritates me, I see a pattern in all of her posts. She doesn't make a smart decision (such as how she handles her jobs, the ppl she works with and now the thing with A), then gets in over her head and works her self into a frenzy, making the situation so much worse. I understand she claims she was young, but really, it wasn't that long ago since she got married in July of 2008.
And lately, when she DOES actually post, it's something stupid like making Thanksgiving dinner or hunting for a tree. I mean, come on! We didn't wait a WEEK for a post just to hear about Brandons sore throat and a damn tree.
What I do find funny, is that she talks crap about her sisters relationship, when her's is just as shitty! (read: Brandon and Lagger) UGH! Anyway, enough venting.

Jayjay0jt said...

Mum- Pretzel sandwiches? I'm not quite sure what that is, but I will definitely look it up later tonight, after I search for restaurant fundraisers. :)

Thank you so much for your help! :)

Brattyworm- First off, such a cute username. :)

That's a good idea. The only thing is: I'm at a community college and our program is barely standing right now. The minimum requirement is a 3.25 GPA (the coordinator decided on this, I want to raise it to the traditional 3.5). I'm just worried that if corporations look at our requirements, that they would laugh at us. But, there's no harm in trying. I will add that onto my to-do list.

I understand wanting to please your man (because I do that too, but just not to that extreme). May I ask how did your situation turn out? If you don't want to talk about it, it's no problem, because it is a really personal subject. I completely understand if you don't want to talk about it.

Stephanie- It's really interesting psychologically. I understand about the whole crush thing, because I think that's only human. But, most people don't really act on it, which is what makes the blog SO interesting to me.

I can't wait to take all the psychology classes that will explain all this. :)

Completely agree. Vacations are good and life comes first over something you're doing for fun. But, I really miss C and K. It's like caffeine! :)

Anonymous- As a reader, I understand that angle where you're like.. "Hey, you promised us this posting schedule and you're not sticking to it."

As an amateur writer, I understand where she's coming from. Life happens. There are so many times where I'm just so busy and I'm just like... "Ok, I HAVE to post because it's part of my posting schedule and it's an obligation." Sometimes I don't feel like writing or I'm just too tired to write or I have to study for an exam the next morning.

But, back to the reader standpoint. I did notice that she has a lot of excuses (some that are valid and some that may inch towards the not-so-valid side). I completely understand about the posts. I've noticed that it's so much information and then at the very end, that's where the interesting part is. But, I guess I do that too, so I can't really complain about that.

I'm glad that I wasn't the only one who found that justification a little bit odd. I'm young too, but I don't really blame my mistakes on my age. And you're right. 2008 isn't too long ago.

I find the whole sister thing psychologically interesting too.

I don't mind if you vent. There's always a place for venting on this blog- about any blog, including mine. :)

ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND EVERYONE! :)

Stephanie said...

I'd like to chalk J's actions to being young and dumb but adults do this kind of foolishness as well. I try not to judge the girl too harshly but in ym head I am usually screaming "what in the HELL are you thinking?!".

Jayjay0jt said...

Yes, life happens. People make mistakes. I don't know, I just don't like it when she blames it on being young. I'm young, but I accept responsibility for my actions and I don't go: it's because I'm young that I make stupid mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone does stupid things time to time.

There's nothing wrong with what she does. It's her life. It's not like I can go "well.. you should have done this and that" because not everyone thinks the same when they're put in a situation.

But usually I'm like "WHAT THE HELL!", then roll my eyes when she finds herself in a difficult situation because it's self-inflicted.

It makes for good reading though. :)

~J said...

Yes, J's blog (for the most part) is definately interesting and I enjoy reading it as much as everyone else. But I do have to agree with Anon. that the excuses are just a little too much.

I totally get that life gets in the way sometimes. I would also be more understanding if it was only SOMETIMES but it pretty often with the blog. Another reader on her blog pointed out that for the month of June, she only had 4 posts and then 4 excuses, that's pretty bad when her posting schedule is supposed to be Mon., Wed., Fri., and Sat. of every week.

Again, I totally understand that the 'real world' can interfer with posting. But you'd think, since it's supposed to be all true, it wouldn't be difficult to slap a post together since you don't actually have to THINK of what's going to happen with the characters. I also agree with Anon. who said that her posts lately are about things that really aren't important or at least don't really have anything to do with the story. Now, I know it's called Diary of J, but it seems like she's using it AS a diary. Just writing about her daily activites and such. If it ties into the rest of the story, then go ahead and write it, but lately it doesn't seem like it does. I hope she can find more time soon and get back to the story of her and A and Brandon, I really miss the juicy stories!!! :)

I'm with you on needing more blogs to read! I need my fix!!! :) I'm SOOO thankful that you haven't decided to take a break! Please don't leave us, otherwise I won't have ANYTHING to read! :) (oh except dreams from yesterday, but she only posts on Mondays) :(

Jayjay0jt said...

Hey, ~J!

I didn't even notice the whole month of June thing. I don't get to read the comments on her blog because she takes forever to approve the comments (which I think is censorship just because everyone has an opinion and if you put your life out there like that, you're bound to get some negative comments, but that's just my opinion).

As for the writing aspect of it. Sometimes I have the post laid out and then I know what to write, but then, sometimes it's hard because you know what to write when you're trying to get it down on paper (blogger).

I saw the latest post and I'm like.. Ok, there's going to be something interesting about her, Brandon, and Alejandro. But it was just about work, for the millionth time. I'm just frustrated because I feel like since she's supposedly catching up to real time, that she's prolonging every second of it.

Believe me, I've considered taking a break. LOL. I'm trying to develop my time management skills and getting the posts out. But, your comment made me smile, so thank you. :)

Oh, do you read the Karen Chronicles and Chapters? Even though the author is down to one post a week (I believe) it's really good! I highly recommend checking it out if you don't already read it.

I also recommend Modern Day Faith, only because I'm really into the guy she's going out with right now. :)

I think on the last Fast-Talking Friday that there's all the links to these blogs.

It really seems like everyone is going on vacation or on a break. But, the one blog I would love to see come back is the Apathy blog. I really miss it. :(

Enjoy your weekend ~J! :)

~J said...

I understand how a Fictional blog can be hard to write. You have to keep being creative every single post. But writting a non-fiction blog about your life.. well.. you don't need to be creative. You just write what happened.

I agree with you when you said you feel like she's prolonging every second. I'm like O.K. blah blah blah.. who cares about your obnoxious callers at work, who cares about cutting down a tree or Brandon's sore throat (as Anon. pointed out), we don't need a play by play of your life. We want to hear about the OTHER things.

I know that probably sounds really mean and critical, but seriously, think about it, if someone wrote a blog about all their mundane daily things, they probably wouldn't have any followers. No one really cares about that.. they want something to keep their attention and make them want to come back for more. Which lately, J's blog isn't doing that.

I really hope and wish she gets back into the swing of things. I hope her posts become more regular and more exciting. 1 Anon. poster said (commented on 1 of J's posts) they were giving up on the blog. While I sometimes feel that way, I still check it out to see if anything interesting gets posted. When she wrote more regularly and it was about the other stuff, she always had me wanting more. Cross your fingers that will happen! :)

Have a great weekend too, and Happy 4th of July!!! :)

Jayjay0jt said...

That doesn't sound mean at all. It's true. No one cares if Brandon has a sore throat (unless he got one from going out with a guy who happened to be his secret boyfriend).

I have my fingers crossed that something better comes up. I read that anon. comment and I was thinking that they had a point. I don't know, I keep hoping that something good comes up in a post, but then I'm disappointed with a post about crappy callers, which is normal in a customer service job. It's like.. I don't care. Stop prolonging the whole ~J and Alejandro situation. I only care about that.

Obviously, I'm kind of frustrated. LOL. But, if I say that I am on her blog, then all the J fans will come and take a swing at me.

I think I'm done with my rant now. :)

Happy 4th of July ~J! :)

~J said...

Ohhh hahahh lmao! Secret boyfriend.. now THAT'S funny! :)

But I'm with you 110%. Who gives a damn about all that stupid shit. Get to the good parts already, Jesus!!

Ohhhhhh I know what you're talking about with all her followers. They'll jump on you like you're the last drunk sorority girl at a frat party if you say ANYTHING that's remotely not nice. I would understand that reaction if someone called her names, or something, but questioning her lack of posts, broken promises and commenting on how a post wasn't interesting shouldn't result in a throwdown. IT'S CALLED FEEDBACK PEOPLE!! If she doesn't want that, then she shouldn't allow comments!

I'll stop my rant there..... for now anyway :)

~J said...
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Jayjay0jt said...

OMG! LOL. "The last drunk sorority girl at a frat party"! LMAO! You should coin that term! Seriously.

Well, she moderates her comments and sometimes don't respond to all of them. I noticed that she picks and chooses which ones she responds to lately. But you're right, everyone has a right to an opinion and I don't feel like I can express it on her blog. That and I went to see if there were comments that she approved but she hasn't. :(

And she JUST posted that she was cutting down her posts to twice a week. So, we'll see how that goes. :)

Happy 4th of July (again). LOL.

~J said...

I'm glad she finally realized that she hasn't been sticking to a schedule and is trying to fix that. I hope she is able to do the 2 posts a wk and it's something gooooood and juicy!! :)

Oh and about your fundraisers. We do a LOT of car washes down here. (but that's b/c it's always super hot almost all yr round) The overhead is pretty cheap. Just some buckets, rags, a hose, and a few ppl near the street with signs for donations while others wash the cars. Fast-food places and gas stations let them do it for free, including using their water b/c usually, while ppl are waiting for their car to be done, they run in and get something to drink or eat. It's a win-win situation for everyone! :)

Anonymous said...

thank you. the name came from a combination of nick names from the husband before he was one.

As far as my situation. It actually turned out far better then one would expect. The first threesome was when we were just a year into the relationship so still bf/gf (we're married now, and into 11 years of a relationship). Had some major issues from some of the after actions, but communication (its a beautiful thing) it turned out well. And more recently due to his job taking him away from me for long periods of time, he requested more of the similar, for instance webcam shows involving others so he could watch. That turned out not bad either. It was enjoyable to an extent. Its also a little stressful. Its not something very many people get told, on here I'm a little more anonymous. But its hard to come up with reasons for people 'visiting' when you're husband is away and people are already suspicious due to stereotyping (this is job related) of spouses in that community. So on one hand I don't disagree with it, but it really is a hard line to walk and like I told her on her blog if you communicate more with the other person and not your significant other/husband it will affect your marriage/relationship in a very negative way. Fortunately due to the nature of how my relationship with my husband started communication has always been a huge part of our lives.

Jayjay0jt said...

Happy 4th of July! :)

~J, My fingers are crossed that on Tuesday that there's going to be something good about her and Alejandro. :)

As for the car wash thing. I think that we'd have to do that sometime when the fall semester starts. We're a 3 person team now and no one else wants to put in the effort over the summer to make the program a success (a lot of people are just in it to put it on their application). But, I think that it's a good idea! I was having a talk with my mom about wearing bathing suits and bikinis for selling root beer floats. HAHA. She doesn't believe me that it's good marketing. :P

Thank you for the help! I'm definitely adding it to the list. :)

Brattyworm- I'm glad that your relationship with your husband is doing well and that it's not affecting your marriage in a negative way.

I just think that J gets emotionally attached really easily and with Alejandro communicating with her and asking her if she's so miserable, why doesn't she consider a divorce? It's a stressful situation for anyone.

And I agree that communication is a key component in a situation like that. I really just believe that with her situation that it's out of control where she uses Alejandro to take a break from her husband after being with him 24/7. It seems like a good idea to be spending all that time together, but after awhile you just get sick of them.

For me, I'm not completely against the idea of an open marriage, but it's not for me. To each their own. :)

I don't even know if my rambling made any sense.

Anonymous said...

yes i agree on most of that. you shouldnt' spend every waking moment with anyone. it takes away your ability appreciate them.

also, it takes some maturity to be able to talk about those things and work out the issues, I don't really see the three of them as having that maturity or sense of security in the relationship based off the posts I've seen.

Jayjay0jt said...

I think I agree with the maturity issue. I don't see it either from her posts. But, I'm not sure how mature or what level of mature-ness is one supposed to be at in their early 20s. I haven't gotten there yet. LOL.

It's just so interesting to watch this all unfold because there's so much buildup that it's going to be such a big mess.

I don't know, I think there should have been some boundaries drawn in the first place. I'm kind of thinking that Brandon might explode and confront Alejandro in an altercation. Or maybe she can run with my Brandon-has-a-secret-boyfriend idea. :)

I'm hoping that someone has the guts to bring this topic up for discussion just because there needs to be a discussion now, instead of letting the situation get more out of hand.

I'm sorry, I'm rambling again. I'm going to stop. haha.

~J said...

I agree there needs to be a level of maturity when dealing with issues such as this. No matter how old a person is, sometimes they just never get to that maturity level.

I know I did some REAAALLLYY stupid stuff when I was younger, but I also knew that getting involved in a 3some-type situation with my significant other would not turn out well. I was not willing to possibly let my relationship suffer for some casual sex. I also knew that if we had brought a girl into the mix (instead of a guy) I wouldn't be able to deal with the jealousy and that would definately wreck the relationship.

Now, I have known couples who have engaged in open marriages and it seems to work out O.K. for them. I just know I wouldnt' be able to do it. The only way I would participate in a 3some is if I wasn't emotionally attached to either of the guys involved.

What I do find funny (not as in haha funny, but more like.. hmm..funny) is that J claims she wasn't for it, didn't want to do it, and didn't want to continue it, but yet she has never once said that to Brandon. Never once has she said, "look.. I only did it for you, and now that you aren't apart of it anymore, I want it to stop." Nope.. she kept on and she was enjoying herself. I'm sorry, but no one is going to have sex with someone (short of a knife to their throat) if they don't want to and then keep coming back for more.... WILLINGLY! So, whether she admits it or not (which she has a tendency for trying to act like the victim ALL.THE.TIME!) SHE said yes, SHE keeps going back for more and SHE can't stop thinking about A. This is no longer Brandon's fault, this is her own.

In my opinion, this HAS turned into an affair... an emotional affair as well as a physical one. Dangerous territory!

Who's rambling now??? :)

Jayjay0jt said...

Ugh, my comments aren't showing up on Blogger.

Hi ~J, No, I agree with you. I personally could not do it. (Unless you brought in another guy into the mix instead of another girl). I mean, my boyfriend and I are somewhat jealous people and I really don't think that he would allow another guy and I allow another girl to join the mix.

I don't really understand why J had to bring in someone who she already had a crush on. If I had an open relationship and brought in someone I had a crush on... :P Really, there is the possibility that you'll like that person more than your boyfriend/husband just because they're new and it's in the honeymoon phase.

I completely agree with the point that this is now an affair just because she could have stopped this. You're right. She could have stopped it.

I totally think that she plays the victim sometimes. It's interesting. :)

~J said...

Umm.. have you seen the pic of A that J posted on FB? Definately not what I expected.

Jayjay0jt said...

No I haven't, but my internet is being really slow right now. Do you have the link to her facebook page?

Spill.. What's up with the picture?

~J said...

I hope this link works:

http://www.facebook.com/jj1104

If it doesn't, then do a search for jj miller.

Now, this could be because I tend to like guys who are clean cut.. you know the dress shirt and tie type of guys (or guys in uniform.. and I DON'T mean a Burger King uniform lol). So, I DEFINATELY don't find him 'hot' or 'fine' or any other words she used. He's definately more.. lets say... on the scruffy side.

No offense to anyone who DOES like the scruffy look, it's just not what I find attractive.

Jayjay0jt said...

Oh, I tried it, but I'd have to add her as a friend on Facebook. I don't know if I'm really cool with that. I think I used to be able to see pictures without adding her, but I think she changed her privacy settings.

But, I'll take your word for it about the pictures.

I'm not a scruffy person kind of gal either. So, I understand what you're talking about. But to each their own.

Maybe it's just a perception thing. She finds him attractive, but it's not like.. a universal.. everyone finds him attractive thing.

For me, I find my boyfriend to be REALLY attractive, but to others he's just average-looking. It works. :)

I really don't know. Is he cute.. at least?

~J said...

Is there a way to send you an email thru here? If so, I can send you the pic. And to me.. no I don't find him attractive, but like you said, it's objective.

Is there a way I can leave a comment on here that only you see it?

Jayjay0jt said...

Here's my email: jayjay0jt@yahoo.com

I don't know if you can post a comment without everyone else reading it. I'm not exactly a computer expert. LOL. :)

~J said...

O.K., I just sent you an email, it's coming from my gmail acct. Hopefully it doesn't go to your spam folder. When you see the title of the email, you'll know it's from me :)

Jayjay0jt said...

Okey doke :) I emailed you back. It did go into the spam folder, but I just reactivated this account so it was easy to find. :)